Nostalgia

Nostalgia is lovingly longing and recalling memories helping us to cope with anxiety saturation and loneliness. It usually comes with a positive effect where the person wishes to be in that moment again to be there with the better version of himself. We mostly feel nostalgic while visiting some places smelling a scent, listening to some sort of music or a familiar voice, reading a certain book or meeting a person after a long time, looking at flowers for a while, or having a cup of tea. But

• Why do we get an essence of our past from some places some things and even from some people?
• Why do we just recall and rehash our memories?
• Why do we love to share the things we already know?
• Why does sometimes it feel like getting flashbacks of some sort of memories from a thing?

Henceforth the foremost point is what are memories? Memories are the images or feelings of our past recalled by the part of our brain to remember our past experiences adding bittersweet flavor to our lives.

 Mostly memories are unforgettable and remain vivid in our minds and hearts and usually, our most beautiful experiences are not associated with money but with the memories.

We are prone to nostalgia it seems simple like we are diving into our cozy memories and feeling good while thinking about them but wait much more is going on.

We easily feel nostalgia as it gives us warmth fondness longing and even more the experience of something, it feels like a sort of diving into mental time travel going back to that time. 

It is always not good but sometimes it comes with bad memories leaving us overthinking and analyzing ourselves in the past helping us to process our current situation. 

I've read somewhere we are connected to our memories so badly that we are the slaves of those places or things like just listening to some music or smelling the same fragrances you have smelt earlier will make you fall into nostalgia. It recalls our relationships with some people places or things. It involves personal reflection of someone's life. 

Mostly nostalgic memories are connected to our childhood because we just love our childhood as we appreciate ourselves at that time for accepting us as it is as we are.

Nostalgia has lots of positive effects as it boosts inspiration, makes us more lively and youthful, increases creativity, and a sense of being us. It helps to relieve pain and increase the ability to detect threats.

Nostalgia can be both sour and sweet with happy memories. in nostalgia, we look at the memories through rose-tinted glass looking at the good aspects and also it gives us a sense of sadness that time has gone and we are unable to go back in that time. We are romanticizing our past while longing for it. Psychology says that by time bad memories fade away faster than happy memories as we are looking at them by a rose-tinted filter.

Ending it with the conclusion that trying to save the pictures and voices of your loved one will surely help you to relieve pain by giving nostalgic memories with them and helps you to assess yourself and be the good version of yourself and what you are meant to be.

 High and dry

I often listen, hear, and read that life is full of ups and downs. It's an amalgam of joys and sorrows. It blends all ardencies in one mixie and then gives you a Roller coaster ride of the blended emotions. But there are some times when you feel like HIGH AND DRY knowing all the situations, circumstances, and consequences but you are unable to do anything. You just left helpless like a boat stuck at any high stone without water.

High and Dry is I think the worst time of someone's life when he feels helpless but couldn't do anything for himself or can't resist the feeling of helplessness. That time the person knocks at every possible door to get the solution to the problems he is going through. He wants to talk to every possible person to get resolved. But he doesn't know that the root cause is his overthinking and only person who can resolve this high and dry situation is none else than himself. No one can help you but the thing they can do for you is to be with you, to provide some sort of support to you, not to leave you alone.

 The situation of helplessness can take you to the ride of death. It will give you depression migraine and many more.

To get rid of this you started getting antidepressants, high-dosage medicines, and many more but you forgot that only your creator is being able to solve this. I think in times of high and dry we get upset with the lord too as we are not getting the things we needed the most or we wanted; it might be a thing, some person, or some achievements. we get angry with HIM for not accepting our prayers knowingly that He will grant more in return for it. Although it is the time of trial by your Creator.

Allah Has Said Many time

" فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا : Fa Inna ma’al ‘usri yusra : Verily, with hardship comes ease -(The Relief) [94:6], Qur’an" 

Indeed, After every hardship ease will come. This is the promise of your LORD that after every helplessness you will get the best reward for it. If one door is closed another will be open for you the only thing you have to do is to find out the opened door not to sit and remorse on the closed one.

Disappointment is a Sin and it is the root cause of a high and dry situation leading you to illness.

To Ease in this high and dry situation the only thing you can do is to sit on the prayer mat and cry a lot to ask the help of Allah the Almighty with the trust that HE will not abandoned you like the world does in Hard times so That HE will fulfill his promise and ease will surely come.

Never forget:

Allah loves you 70 times more than your mother.

Ending with a prayer for you that May Allah the Almighty will ease your hardships and gives you best rewards.

Heart wrenching Situation of Pakistan

Before moving toward the condition of Pakistan. I have some questions to ask

• Those causing destruction are not Pakistanis or they are hired to do this?
• Don't they know public property belongs to citizens, not to the officials?
• Don't they know killing someone or taking the lives of even animals is strongly condemned in Islam?
• Aren't they Muslims who burnt the Masjid in Gujranwala?
• Who are they?

Our Land and beloved country Pakistan is amidst the worst political chaos which not only harms the physical and mental health of citizens but also it is destroying the image of Pakistan as a peaceful and peace-loving nation in the eye of the whole world.

Those people are berating Pakistan as a nation that does not owe its identity as a nation in the world.

Like Someone from Israel is tweeting (Pakistan has failed as a nation) oh man you have to recognize yourself first then talk about others.

The prevailing condition is so heart-wrenching that it's hard to believe in our eyes that youth who are supposed to be the future of this country is busy demolishing all the properties of the country that are totally public property and have no concern with the cheap politics. All these things are made by our taxes and once they get destroyed they'll repair them by imposing heavy taxes on us which will become hard for the middle class to pay.

It's a politically instable period or era of our motherland. 

All this is happening after the arrest of a great leader. I can understand all the emotions connected to him but we all know politics is a dirty and cheap game played by some powerful officials. At this time we are blaming one another for this situation.

But forget everything for a while and just think If the leader is patriotic that is no doubt he is So. How he would allow you to take the innocent lives of humans and animals? How he would allow you to destroy all the things coming your way knowing that it's hard to replenish your country after that. he would never allow his supporters to create that high level of destruction.

we are playing blame games over taking responsibility. Everybody here uses abusive language for his fellow being just because of the difference or clash of their thoughts. They burnt buses, schools, masjids, and many important buildings. In their aggression, they forgot that Masjid is the kibla of Muslims and they burnt it. 

Means what?

Every other country mocked us. We blame the army we blame the government. Many of us are blaming that leader. Mostly blaming our thought. Now who is right?

Govt called the army for help in provinces then who will protect the border. We are getting the sensitivity of this issue Any danger from our enemies will easily destroy the country and then they can easily say that we didn't do your own peeps did this. Who will take the responsibility?

At this time of Chaos, any external force can easily harm the nation. Any terrorist group can do blasts and then denies. 

 

Forgot sake we are a nation not the enemies of one another we have to protect the country not destroy it. We are its protectors, not demolishers. we are its future and what are we doing?

political differences aside Its important to quote here

میں یہ کس کے نام لکھوں

جو الم گزر رہے ہیں

میرے شہر جل رہے ہیں

میرے لوگ مر رہے ہیں

Still, we have time to control the situation before it worsens just by realizing our duties and responsibilities that obligate us to protect our country, not destroy it.

May Allah Subhan wa Talla protect Pakistan from its own citizens and evil eyes. (Ameen)

ملک بچانا تھا جلانا نہیں

Relationship

 Relationship Advice:  

We often listen to how we are getting into a relationship with others, but we think we know the meaning of the relationship, but we don’t. Due to some misconceptions and some relationship advisors, we’ll take our relationship to miserable situations. Whenever our relationship is at the hardest phase, everyone around us would love to be our relationship advisors, including our friends' families and others. Due to these things, the relationship gets worst and becomes worsens day by day.

Factors affecting Relationships:  
Reverence:  

 The first factor that nourishes or abandons the relationship is reverence, which means respecting the partner, its likeness, and Dis likeness. Giving Respect means accepting your partner’s choices openly and not showing disrespect for them. You must give them space for whatever they want to do.  

Certitude:  

Always trust the happenings. Trust is the most important factor in any relationship. If you don’t trust your partner, it will not only snub them but also become the basic reason for worsening your relationship. Always put your trust in situations and your partner; believe me, they will never let you down.  

Concern:  

Show concern by saying something different to your partner daily. Try to help your partner in their daily routines. Share the workload.  

Find your love language:  

Every human has different ways of showing love and concern to their partner. Some show their love by writing and saying something different to their partner. Some show their love by having concern for their partner. Some show their love by presenting small gifts like roses and chocolates. Some are too shy to express their love. They show it by helping their partner in households and doing little things for them.  

But it is somehow essential to express your feelings to your loved ones occasionally and daily. It will make them feel special that someone loves them more than anything and give them the feeling of being important.  

Intimacy:  

Intimacy plays an important role in strengthening relations. It is somehow toxic as it kills you when it reaches the end limit. Still, if you are connected to the right person, intimacy in your relationship will never let your relationship die and will give them the colors of delight.  

Needs:  

“The number one thing I've learned about love is that it's a trade and a social exchange, not just a feeling. Loving connections are a process by which we get our requirements met and meet the requirements of our mates too.   

   

When that exchange is mutually satisfying, also good passions continue to flow. When it's not, the effects turn sour, and the relationship ends.   

That's why it's important to pay attention to what you and your mate do for each other as expressions of love, not just how you feel about each other ”  

Handling Conflicts:  

It's not about why you fight. It's all about how you fight;  

Don't attack or give cuts   
No yelling, throwing, hitting, or pushing   
No condemning, censuring, and judging   
No giving the silent treatment   
Do take responsibility for what you can change or how you can lessen the relationship   
Ask for what you need in the relationship   
Work on seeing the other person’s perspective.  

Let It Be and Let it Go: 

Let It Go formerly – in summary, make the decision to forgive, forget and move on.   
Throw Down Your Scorecard – don’t keep score of what you did and your mate isn’t doing.  
Allow Your Partner to Be mortal – flashback that you're in a relationship with a fellow human who's doing the stylish they can.   
Learn To Laugh at Yourself – learn to laugh at yourself and verbose implicit arguments with the power of humor.  

Small conversations:  

Sometimes it is important to have small talk about finances, emotions, feelings of love, and some other little stuff because all your partners are not telepathic at all. We need to tell them how we feel about their behavior and how we get their points. If we don’t tell them, they’ll never get what we are going through.  

Acceptance in every situation:  

Accept your partner with all their flaws. Don’t just appreciate their good things but also accept their flaws and bad things. Try to change bad habits with love and care. But don’t force yourself on them. It will make them more rebellious.  

Stay in the moment:  

Always try to live and enjoy the present moment with your partner. Don’t let your tensions of the future spoil the moments that you want to enjoy with your partner. Spend quality time and make good memories. Try to stay in that moment in your hand instead of regretting the past and thinking about the future. 

Don’t overshare:  

Let your past be packed in the trunks of life. Don’t let it destroy your present life. Sometimes we are so attached to our partner that we used to apply all our past experiences and moments to our current situation. We used to share our past experiences with our recent partners, which destroyed our current situation.  

Don’t be overprotective:  

Show care and love to your partner but don’t be overprotective. Overprotectiveness seems that you are going to imprison or bind your partner. This behavior will irritate your partner, and they will try to free themself from this toxic relationship.  

By giving the full attention and love that a relationship deserves, you will surely feel the charm and delight of a healthy relationship.