Why life is a slow poison...

Sometimes some incidents make me think 

  Why life is a slow poison 

and knowingly we have to take it...

why it is always a bed of thorns...

  and then we are forced to sleep on it

Why we are always advised to be patient

  instead of raising voices against it.

Sometimes it makes me realize why people choose suicide instead of living in this cursed era. it is all because of family pressures, broken hearts, discouragement by loved ones, Disappointment by the lord of the Universe, and incomplete desires that make it impossible to live. All these things make life slow poison and then instead of all these circumstances you are forced to live in it. You can't even hurt yourself coz it's hard to hurt your body knowing that it is the deposit of God and you are not allowed to betray in this fidelity.

when life becomes a slow poison every passing day keeps uh nearer to death but uh die every day you can't live or even die and the spending moments will be the toughest one.

we think life is a bed of roses for rich people because they have money to solve their problems but money itself is the biggest problem. but without money life becomes the toughest life for the poor. Sometimes we stuck ourselves in such conditions that we don't want to come out of them because our minds or heart doesn't want to accept the situation and we are unable to face the situation. All these things create a sense of failure in that person. the one who is going through this is unable to face people by having tears in their eyes. it is not only happening because of broken hearts or failure in love but sometimes it happens because of family tragedies and issues, the pressure of business, loss of any dearest things.

nothing will console you in this situation, not even your loved ones

I read somewhere written

only I could console myself nobody else did.

At this stage, we are the ones who can relax. who can get us out of it by giving a shutup call to our minds and heart? Life is about compromises and we have to do compromises to live it fully. we can console ourselves just by leaving some good or bad things that make us realize the feeling that we are going through.

be the grateful person of your lord he will lessen your pain and gives you a new life to live on. this time tells uh who is yours and who is not. 

In nutshell I must write never cry in front of people they will make mock it but crying in front of your lord will lessen your suffering as is mentioned

Allah loves you seventy times more than your mother. 

Just go to HIM and put your heart out he will resolve the issues and give you every possible thing that you want.

May Allah bless you all.

 Generation Gap...

All we have is the content passed on to us by our ancestor's experiences we inculcate and hardly negate. But to bridge the generation gap, one should adapt to the new while retaining the goodness of the old.

The generation gap is the biggest dilemma of the 20's generation... they don't want to understand what their elders think. The most significant difference is between their thinking capabilities, their thoughts, and how both follow customs and traditions.

On my account, I belong to the 90's generation, and I feel excellent discrimination between us and our elders thought.

The older generation is the generation that doesn't need any mobile phone for connectivity. They don't need any internet package or device to meet their loved ones. They love to follow their customs wholeheartedly. They love to travel long distances to meet their loved ones. They just visited fairs in villages for recreation. They love to welcome all coming guests to their homes. They don't get bored while sitting with their grand ones.

but

today's generation is different. They take everyone as a snake. They don't want to be in a gathering anymore. They don't want to meet their relatives. they have the dullest life. They think all the recreation is on their cell phones and nothing outside. At 13 or 14, some kids have affairs and don't know the exact meaning of love and lust. They are getting an education without any sense. 

I read somewhere a tweet by a kid posting I have depression issues and am fed up with my life, and I supposed she was just 14 years old. Now I am confused about what kind of depression she is facing at just 14. has she lost her book or pen? What I couldn't get it

this generation is the most depressed and broken generation.in older times, whenever people got worried, or someone hurt them, they used to remain quiet or leave it to their lord. Our mothers don't know how to use a phone and use it to call us if we are apart. But now, these kids are using their phones more and don't know about the world outside the phone.

This generation is bold and somehow rude and arrogant. They use senseless and abusive language in the name of straightforwardness. 

Past lessons are ignored and obliterated in a contemporary antagonism known as the generation gap.

They love to start their talks by using abusive language. 

Today's generation wants to be successful but without effort and gratification. They work to spend and save nothing for their retirement. They used to change jobs and careers just because someone scolded them for their wrong behavior. On the other hand, the older generation works for their survival. Educational expectations and parties are far ahead of them. They work and save money for some rainy days.

Our parental generation used to sit with their elders, listen to them and follow whatever they said. They never argue. The factor of respect was high in them, but today's generation makes it a matter of ego and self-respect without knowing the meaning of respect. They don't want to listen to their parents, which is destroying their and their parent's mental health. 

Today a kid of 8 or 9 years will recognize his authority and speak louder than in front of his parents, which is a drastic change for older parents who don't even think of speaking louder in front of their parents, making them rebels.

The only solution to sort out this is should respect every individual. Parents would have to listen to their kids, and kids should also respect the decision of their parents and older generations.

A father must guide his children, but first, he must learn to follow. He should laugh with them but remember the pain of childhood tears. He must hold the past tightly with one hand and reach the future with the other hand so there can be no generation gap.

Inclemency (intensity)

 Inclemency

Intensity, severity, excesses yes these words ruins someone's life as well as bring them to death

A well known thinker said excess of everything is dangerous.

According to science even excess of water air oxygen and different things may harm your health will easily bring you to deathbed. You’ll become ill physically.

But According to psychology inclemency of emotions and feelings will destroy your mental health it will not bring you to deathbed but they cause nervous breakdowns and made mentally distorted people.

Attachments, Affiliations, Addictions, Love these emotions are important in our lives but trust me intensity or excess of anyone of these emotions will totally destroy you. 

Addiction the most dangerous emotion of all of them:

When we are addicted to something or someone we can’t live without it. Its dangerous. Whether its some kind of drugs or someone you really care or love. You can’t imagine your life without them. It hurts when they are not available for you they said something harsh to you or they think something about you that you are not supposed to do. And yes excess of addiction will completely ruin your mental health you need something to rely upon then to become stable. Your peace your life your everything is connected to that person.

Attachments and love:

Two types of Attachments and love are there one with the lord and other with the man. Only intense thing that will fly you to the sky is the love of lord all other intense things will not give you peace at all. Peace is like your fav bird that will only be found with your fav person. Without them your life has no meaning no worth they’ll make you realized that your life has some purpose some meaning. You are just like child with them and you don’t want to share them even with your most loved ones like your favorite chocolates

But

My dear you know what when they are not by your side or they are not in your fate the only thing left is crucifixion until death. You cant do anything. You cant save yourself from destruction. You cant find your peace in anything other than them. Their little sadness and anger will make you upset. 

Trust me love yourself and your lord that’s the only to save yourself your life your peace and it is important.

Men Are Not Trash "Mentalities" Are

 Men are not trash but “Mentalities” are

Men are not trash

Women are not crazy

Everyone is spoilt

Everyone is slipshod

Everyone needs healing

Everyone needs love

But they don’t know

How to get heal

And how to get love

No one has all the answers

Be the loveliest light

That gives others hope in life

In today’s context I read, I heard all the time that all men are trash. Today in our country women are not safe because of some shitty people. Little flowers are plucked before they grow. Many young tycoons of business were killed by some eccentric millionaires. Girls are not safe on roads, on malls, and even in their graves. Sometimes it happens because of the girl who is the victim but most of the time it happens because of the sick mentality of the murderer and rapist.

Instead of all these events I can surely say that men are not trash but it is their mindset that how they get fosterage? How their family bring them up?  What kind of mentality do they possess? What is the impact of education on them? All these things are important.

Islam says: Men are the protectors of women who are righteous in belief. Allah ordered Men to protect women whether she is his family member or not and Muslim men will surely do this.

!“Men shall take full care of women with the bounties Allah has bestowed on them, and what they may spend out of their possession; as Allah has eschewed each with certain qualities in relation to the other! And the righteous women are the truly devout ones, who guard the intimacy which Allah has ordained to be guarded”

Today the major cause of these crises is the lack ness and carelessness on both sides of the coin. In an Islamic state where women are ordered to cover themselves with a veil so that they can be recognized as a Muslim Lady and be protected from the evil eyes.

Their men are also ordered to put down his Gaze. But today both are going against it Women used to wear western dresses and these play the role of an open flower to bees and houseflies everyone starts admiring their beauty and they love it then one day some dragonfly comes and Suck all his nectar and then we say men are trash but the women are also responsible for it.

But when a little flower is plucked just to calm their desire for sensual pleasure it is painful because it is the mentality of that animal that does such things that man is trash and his mentality is worth killing. But don’t blame all others.

I can’t say all men are trash because my father my brothers are also men but they have the moral values they know how to protect women from evil eyes. How to keep their daughters, wives, and sisters safe. From starting I heard a proverb

All bread is not baked in one oven

And this proverb is enough I think to explain that our five fingers are not equal and they can’t be. As like them, all men are not the same but one bad alligator in a pond destroys or demolishes all other fishes living in that pond. Just like them one murderer and rapist obliterate the repute and image of every other man in the community. One bad woman destroys the image of the whole women community. So don’t judge all the races on the basis of one shitty person.

In the end, I must say if our community starts following the rules and commands are given by Allah Almighty many evils will surely come to an end and we will lead a peaceful life.

P.S: This article is not against any community.

Race: the caste system.

 

Race: the caste system.

The world has a huge population encompassing many obvious physical variations, from light skins to some of the darkest in tone and a wide variety of hair textures and facial features. Such variations there, as elsewhere, are a product of natural selection in different environments, and of genetic drift among small populations, and of historical migrations and contact between people.

Pakistan also encompasses a variety of people belonging to different castes, tribes, and regions. We used to recognize them based on their region despite their character and nature.

The major ethnic groups of Pakistan include Punjabis, Pashtuns, Sindhis, Saraikis, Muhajirs, Baloch, Paharis,, rajpoots, and other smaller groups. Smaller ethnic groups found throughout the nation include Kashmiris, Kalash, Chitralis, Siddi, Burkusho, Wakhis, Khowar, Hazara, Shin, Kalyu, and Jatts.

According to different researches:

Ethnicity in Pakistan (2020) 

  Punjabis (44.7%)

  Pashtuns (15.4%)

  Sindhis (14.1%)

  Saraikis (8.4%)

  Muhajirs (7.6%)

  Balochis (3.6%)

  Others (6.3%)

Despite these regional distributions another fact that distribute the people of Pakistan is religious sectarian believes. We used to build our hypothesis about them after listening to the sect to which they belong. These regional and religious discriminations are so humdrum in Pakistani society that everyone wants to maintain silence on them even the authorities. People of Pakistan are fighting against their brothers just because of the sects. Everyone has a different thought not about them but also about their beliefs, their sects, their characters though.

We became so censorious that we don’t even think about them and pass our judgment about them. Not even thinking that the judgment we are giving is true or not. We don’t even care that what would be the impact of it on other’s mind.

We just love to discriminate against others. In our society, according to our judgment people will get jobs food shelter, and else. We think that

The fact is that we are forgetting about our religion, our complete code of life.

We think that we are superior to others on the basis or color caste and creed but we forget we are from that religion who strongly interdicts us from such discrimination.

All people, regardless of their origin, are equal in Islam and the only thing that distinguishes them is their level of commitment to their religion. It is reported by Al-Tirmidhi in one Hadith that the Prophet Muhammad said:

O mankind, indeed we have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the noblest of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Aware.

Racism in any form is considered unacceptable and wrong. Muslims believe that all people share in common humanity. They believe that racism, whether as prejudice or discrimination, undermines the dignity of people.

After reading this context I have a question whether we are the Muslims who follow the guidelines of Islam. Instead, we are those who just believe in sectarian discrimination.

 Despite being with others For humanity as our religion preaches, I saw a lot of people on Social media sites who are just giving baseless arguments on other's distress. I’ll point out some things that click me. literally many suni’s and Shia are fighting with each other just to prove others wrong. They didn’t care about the people who lost their loved ones. Means what the heck it means your sect is more important than the innocent lives.

I just believe our conditions will be better if we just stop judging others on such dissipated things. All we need is to uplift ourselves from all such things that weaken us. That is causing the worst harm to Muslims harmony and pride. We all are Muslims, the followers of Muhammad(S.A.W), the followers of one holy book, the followers of one deen.

Just stop to judge others based on their caste, modify your thoughts, modify your criteria of judgments, Admonish yourself from making baseless hypothesis about others just based on their color caste creed and the region. If you really want to judge others, judge them based on their character and humanity.

Always remember:

Not every Sindhi is disloyal

Not every Seraiki in illiterate

Not every Pathan as a terrorist

Not every Punjabi is mannerless

Not every Baloch is the gangster

Not every sect is disrespectful.

All these things are not dependent on their caste and creed. It’ll totally depend on their raising and mentality.

Someone said:

Real eyes realize the real lies.

Just be that real eyes that recognize others on a real basis not by such discrimination.